Affect - emotional regulation in relationship

The ability to regulate affect (emotion) competently is not an innate capacity, but rather learned in and beyond infancy with attachment figures (Schore, 2003). Intense negative and positive emotional experiences that are beyond the capacity of the child to self-regulate are managed (co-regulated) with the help of the care-giver. Through the process of emotional regulation in relationship, the child's ability for self-regulation is developed and enhanced." Handbook of Infant Mental Health, 3rd Edition 2012 Chapter 28, p.457